General Discussion

There was a person on the internet that commented on YouTube a situation she had with her family she said that growing up her mother let her brother get away with everything her brother did everything he wanted to and he was horrible to her and her sister and she never really let that happen with her and her sister however she spoiled her son so much that her son grew into a domestic abuser she he hit his girlfriend he was basically crazy and had basically not turned out very well and I theorize that what happened with the family was that the boy had an actual mental health disorder that his mom felt he couldn't help and couldn't control that she kept excusing time and time again solely because of the fact that essentially speaking he had a mental illness basically she consistently constantly excused his behavior because to her he couldn't help himself he couldn't control himself and he couldn't control it so this leads to the abuser mindset basically in the abuser mindset it's let's put it this way so one he's constantly excused for all of the things that he does so the reason why he'll look at his abuse victim and say it's your fault you did this you're the reason why this occurred you're the reason why this happened or look at what you made me do look at the look at how you angry you made me he was raised in a household where all of his actions and behaviors were excused especially if he grew up in an abusive household he grew up in an abusive household where his father probably beat his mother and he may have had a mental health issue as a result and may have been a result of abusement's Father his mother didn't want to really discipline him because his life was already hard and let him kind of get away with a lot of things which made things actually way worse for him when it comes to his personality and mental state then you would have situations where his father would push toxic ideologies just a whole bunch of issues that culminated that plus a possible pre-existing issue or mental health issue stemming from the abuse or if he's not being hit because she knows that her son knows she's being hit she intentionally lets him get away with whatever he wants and if there is no abuse in the home and the parents are like why are you hitting this girl it's possible that he's been spoiled due to a pre-existing it's not their fault but because they spoiled someone with mental health issues he didn't turn out like a normal child with a normal brain that was spoiled those guys become entitled and like I don't have to do what you say and just just all out Wild but at the same time at the same time may not get so crazy as to be physically abusive whereas a child who already has a very severe mental illness they might become worse because there's really no structure in the household there's nothing to give them boundaries there's nothing to actively help them their parents don't know what to do and do not want to discipline because they feel like they already have it hard so they don't want to make it worse as a result they don't even talk to them or tell them what they did was wrong they might sit them down and have a talk with them but some of these kids are devious and malicious and despite the talk with no punishment they don't care and they just do more devious and malicious things as a result when he grows up due to the mental health state of him he genuinely doesn't care he does know better he does know that it's wrong but as a result of the toxic parts of his mental illness never being checked he never actually learned to control himself or put effort into it as a result he became a danger to everyone around him his mom tries to get the girlfriend to stay in the abusive relationship because she doesn't want her his girlfriend to somehow be punishing him by protecting herself and leaving then is mom always takes his side because he's the mentally ill one meanwhile meanwhile you basically meanwhile he's basically doing everything he wants to do knowing he will never get any punishment and then suddenly one day he ends up doing very very very very very bad things but everyone just calls it his mental illness everyone has an excuse and then this leads to the mindset of I can't help it I can't control it that's just me I can't change his mother believes his violent abusive Tendencies are just him and that he can't change and that she has to do stuff to manage those violent and abusive tendencies meanwhile the girlfriend she's not used to this she didn't raise him and he doesn't respect her as much as he respects his mother as a result she ends up essentially becoming the punching bag he might be good to his mother but essentially he's just not good to her cuz she's just another person he doesn't care about other people he was never taught he essentially becomes a narcissist of sorts because he has a very high ego zero care for other people or morally a psychopath but it's like without essentially the full psychopathy like he does feel fear he does feel he can't feel strong bonds he can form a strong bond but it's like he'll develop Psychopathic traits due to lack of discipline and other mental health issues

When his girlfriend accidentally messes something up he basically gets unhinged and then he just starts randomly attacking her yelling at her Etc possibly due to an abusive childhood he learns to blame everyone else because everybody else blamed everybody else when he did something or it always say I'm sorry or apologize he never got adequate discipline