I want to feel what love feels like—romantic love

Let's say Diana tells a genie, "I want to feel what love feels like—romantic love. I don't want to feel, like, I don't know what love is. I don't know what it feels like. I don't know what romantic love feels like. I've felt every other kind of love, but I'm not sure," because Diana doesn't feel intense emotions and doesn't know if she's actually felt love before.

Because it feels like it's this constant, continual, ongoing emotion, she's wondering if that's what it is. So she wants a genie to make her feel it, but the genie says, "As per the rules, I actually can't do that for a million reasons. Romantic love hormones are actually the worst. They are the most detrimental, the most awkward. Like, friendship love or loving a parent won't brew romantic jealousy or paranoia. Romantic love produces paranoia and jealousy."

As a result, Diana goes to a fairy and says, "I want you to make me fall in love with this nerd. We're both adults in college, but he's kind of a nerd, and he seems to like me back. So I don't really know what romantic love is, and I think this would be the perfect opportunity to take advantage of his emotions by making him happy. Like, if I'm in love with him, then he gets what he wants, and I get to know what love feels like. But I don't want just any kind of love—I want romantic love."

And the fairy grants it because it was her decision.

As a result, Diana goes back to the nerd, Toby, and, essentially speaking, she feels emotions. These emotions are basically her oxytocin and hormones gearing themselves to actually feel a level of romantic attraction toward Toby. Now she kind of figures out that she feels like flirting with Toby. She feels urges not only to flirt but to be around him. She enjoys his company more, and she feels like she's attracted to him—not sexually, but romantically—because the fairy never actually started the gears to get her sexually attracted to him. She just started the gears to get her romantically attracted to him. Such an increase in oxytocin was produced to the level needed that would lead to a romantic type of situation.

As a result, Diana kind of got what she wanted and got urges to sort of act on those emotions. Some of these urges she didn't act on because she thought it would be too weird or awkward. These were her own choices and decisions. She did what she thought was safe and appropriate in response to those urges and emotions. These urges were not sexual urges, however. These urges were actually romantic, such as wanting to kiss him, kiss his cheek, give him a hug, or flirt with him.

However, because she did not feel sexual urges, this did not mean that she wasn't romantically attracted to him at all. This is because there is something called asexuality and aromanticism. Let's say you have sexual attraction, but you can never fall in love with anyone. You have an inability to fall in love. As a result, you are aromantic. However, let's say you can fall in love with someone romantically. You feel the exact same emotion known as romantic attraction, but you cannot feel sexual attraction, maybe due to something biological. This is the result of asexuality. You are asexual but not aromantic. You are heteroromantic and fall in love with the opposite sex, as that is what heteroromantic means.

Diana is in love with the nerd, but she's not sexually attracted to the nerd; she's romantically attracted to the nerd. This is because you can be in lust with someone but not in love with someone. You can be sexually attracted to someone but not in love with them. This happens a lot. There are a lot of men who find women sexy, have sex with them, and then dump them afterward. They do lust after them. They do find them sexually attractive—that's why they pursue them.

The same man would go up to another woman and say, "I don't want you." He might be horny, but he's going to be like, "I'm not sexually attracted to her. I'm horny, so I'll go with that hot chick over there." He's sexually attracted to the woman with the big boobs, the big booty, and the big thighs. He is not sexually attracted to the other woman who doesn't have those traits.

So we'll call him Horton. Horton goes to this girl named Arizona as a result of his sexual attraction to her and leaves behind the other girl, Jordan. Despite him being aroused and desiring to have sex with someone, because he's not sexually attracted to Jordan, he just doesn't go out with Jordan. However, he's not in love with Arizona. He is sexually attracted to Arizona. He's lusting after Arizona. Arizona is sexy, and as a result, he has sex with Arizona and then leaves.

It was never meant to be a long-term thing. It was a one-night stand. He doesn't have a fear of relationships, but he's not in love with her, and he has no incentive to go out with someone he's not in love with. It's the same for Arizona. Arizona found him sexually attractive but isn't in love with him. She was aroused, and she decided to have sex with him, but she has no intent of making it a relationship—not out of fear, but because she only wants to be in a long-term committed relationship with someone that she is genuinely in love with. Neither of them feels that way toward each other, so both go their separate ways after the sexual encounter.

That is kind of the difference between Diana and other romantic relationships. In this case, all she asked for was romance, and all she got was romance. But she never really felt that ounce of lust for him because this wasn't something that generated naturally, and she's not attracted to this type of guy. She just finds him, you know, cute, but he's not necessarily someone she would find sexually attractive.

Diana has also experienced times when she found men attractive but not sexually attractive. She thought they were cute and thought that she wanted to date them, but she never really felt compelled to have sex with them.

Basically, the "he's hot" situation.

Diana, during this time, builds up a sort of genuine friendship with the nerd because she's romantically attracted to him, so she decides to act on the urges that come because of that. As a result, she doesn't really have sex with him because she doesn't have sexual urges toward him, but she's friendly, she's kind, she's nice, and sometimes, when she's in a good mood, she just automatically has the urge to say kind things to him. As a result, she says kind things to him, and they do develop a sort of healthy relationship based on this.

Now, the nerd didn't fall in love with her because of a love potion. He was genuinely in love with her. He may not have had sexual attraction to her, but he was genuinely in love with her as a romantic partner. The thing was, her oxytocin levels were controlled. As a result of these oxytocin levels being controlled, this triggered her. This basically was the domino that gave her urges to act on. She could choose whether or not she acted on these urges, and she went along with it of her own free will. She had her own free will.