Love Potions Can Only Handle Emotions

A man went to a fae and asked the fae to essentially speaking, "make my girlfriend love me." The man's relationship with his girlfriend had taken a horrible turn where he had essentially cheated on her with another woman... a woman who actually did feel infatuated with him and did believe that she genuinely was, in a romantic sense, in love with him.

The fae kind of didn't really understand this. Her name was Deeka, and Deeka didn't know what he meant because she was never explained the situation. So she asked, "Did your girlfriend break up with you or something? Because if she's your girlfriend, then she's already in love with you???"

And the man, whose name was Oliver, had said, "It's very complicated. I don't want to explain it right here."

This is because he was talking to a fae, and it's very dangerous to explain these types of things to a fae because they may make a sort of revenge wish, something a human is actually fully capable of doing. It's a wish or spell where you do something out of malice for someone you perceive to have been in the wrong.

In many stories, the Fae are very evil and will punish you with very harsh punishments for small infractions.

And if it's something as big as cheating, it can be very, very bad because you could be turned into a mouse, doomed to a life of insta-rejection and no ability to be with your family because they would kill you as soon as they saw you, with many animals trying to eat you if you had, essentially speaking, gone back home.

As a result, he asked the fae to "just make her love me," and the fae doesn't really know what to do and, essentially speaking, doesn't know what he did, so she decides to go the safe route. She decides that she will make her love him, but it's not a romantic kind of love, and she decides to make them just friends, well, on his girlfriend's side.

His girlfriend's name is Emma, short for Emily.

As a result, the boyfriend romantically is in love with Emma, but Emily is now feeling this sort of friendship love to the point where Emily feels like she'd forgive him now. The fae doesn't control her mind; it's not like obsession, where she's possessed or the wish is forcing her to act against her will. Emily's behavior is extremely base-root, and it's so base-root that it's unusually base-root. Instead of her mindset and identity being changed, it gets to a point where her behavior is now...

Based on emotion. However, there's a bit of a confusion here. The issue is not necessarily that her emotions are forcing her to act in a way she doesn't want to. Her emotions are just there. She now feels a sort of affinity for him, like you would for a friend. She likes him, but the emotion won't have any effect on her behavior by force. The emotion is a factor considered by her mind.

As a result, she breaks up with him.

Now this is very confusing. Why is she breaking up with him if she is his friend now? Well, it's because she feels betrayed. She doesn't actually, you know, hate him anymore. She used to hate him, but all biological hormones that have actually resulted in her hate have been kind of depleted. But she's still angry; she's just not as angry as before. The fairy controlled her emotions. The fairy used emo-kinesis,

which is the superpower to control emotions, distinct from the ability to control minds. It simply made her feel a certain way but didn't make her think a certain way. So while emotionally her body was producing oxytocin to give her a sort of emotional friendship affinity, her body did not produce enough oxytocin to make her still like him, and the relationship became very complicated, where she ended up, essentially speaking, due to her own emotions calming down. She did not actually forgive him; she just calmed down around him, and the production of serotonin in her mind caused her to react in a way where she was like, okay. Every action that she makes, every choice she makes, is of her own will and decision. She still retains full free will. The only difference is her emotions have been altered.

She breaks up with him because while she's calm enough to forgive him, she's still hurt because some of those feelings of betrayal haven't been removed. So she leaves and eventually goes back to disliking him and no longer wanting to be around him, be his friend, etc.

This is because the wish, the spell that was cast on her, was purely emotional. You can't necessarily make someone go back to loving you. That creates a complicated situation because, essentially, the better wish he would have made is she doesn't hate him anymore. This would sort of remove the negative emotions. However, the knowledge would have brought them all back. At best, the better wish than that would have been to make her forget that the cheating had ever happened. This would have allowed her to not remember it, but then the emotions would have still been there, and she still would hate him and be angry at him despite the fact that the memories are gone. But she remembers something happened, something negative, something he did, so she would just ask him and pester him, "What did you do? What happened? What have you done?"

This leaves Oliver completely emotionally disheveled, as the wish didn't work, and he goes to the fae to ask, "What happened?" And the fae says, "I didn't know the situation, so instead of making her fall in love with you romantically, I just gave you guys a friendship." And he says, "Well, she didn't want to be friends with me anymore." And the fae's like, "What did you do that made her not love you anymore? 'Cause you guys got into a relationship for whatever reason."

And Oliver says, "I cheated on her."

And the Faye replies, "Oh, that makes a lot of sense now because technically, like, I've made people become friends before. There were some really lonely people who wanted friends, and I've sort of geared their emotions, life situations, etc., to make them become friends with each other. First, I would produce oxytocin. I'm a very scientific person, or else these simply won't work. I've geared oxytocin in their favor, you know, like how a parent is with their child, except I've never geared it to that point because that would be perverse, in my opinion. It creates too much love for a random stranger whom you don't know. It would have given that person a sort of parental love toward that person. It would not be romantic or friendly, but more like an overbearing parent or a really obsessive fandom that I feel should only really be for a parent and child.

The only time I would even give this kind of love to a parent in this case is in the case of abuse victims or really deceived, disheveled children. And as unethical as that feels to me personally, because parental love forces you to be super-sacrificial, basically, because the emotions are so intense and high that it causes that person—well, it doesn't really force them—but it's like that person becomes very, very attached too quickly. Now, this is done automatically and naturally when it comes to parents having babies, and it's absolutely necessary for the parenting journey because without it, not only is parenting made much harder and much more difficult, but it's also much more emotionally draining, and you don't get the payoff of the love you have for your baby, the affection you have for the baby, the good emotions and feelings and stuff like that. They trigger reactions: love, happiness, and many other emotions.

That high level of oxytocin alone—because when you're pregnant, oxytocin builds up for your baby—that oxytocin by itself, plus the brain alterations that pregnancy has on women, is very important for child care, childbearing, and child rearing. Granted, it has its limits. Parents who really love their children have still kicked their children out when they found out their kids were pregnant. Parents have still yelled, screamed, and gotten angry, etc. You know what I'm saying? The other emotions matter too.

Humans are very instinctive. Anger is a destructive emotion. Humans generally see happy people as creepy because they're unhappy themselves. They're very unhappy. So finding someone happy not only irks them, but they're like, 'Everyone else is unhappy. Why are you so happy?' So they assume drugs, even though they don't know what drugs look like in a person. Alcohol, even though they don't know what alcohol looks like in a person. Just because of the emotion of a sober, happy person. They don't know what sober and happy looks like, and as a result, they hate that sober, happy person, who is actually very, very safe to be around. It is, in fact, the safest person to be around because if that person is happy, they're in a good mood. When you're in a good mood, you feel the pull to do something nice for someone.

This is also why I would pretty much just say that if she's unhappy with you, she's not going to be nice to you. There are parents who have had babies, and they love their babies. They would die for their babies. They would do anything for their babies. But it's not like the movie *Obsession* or anything of that sort. In *Obsession*, that girl was clearly possessed. But let's say I go and do something for you. What would happen, essentially speaking, if *Obsession* were purely based on emotion and not mindset, chemistry, or brainwashing, is that she would have gone into a perfectly normal relationship. She would have never cooked his cat, would have never killed his friends, or anything like that. Her behavior would have been her own. She would have made choices based on the emotion at that time.

When the brain's chemistry is triggered to produce something, because sometimes your hormones are hardwired to react to certain people, certain things, etc.—I'm not saying you're just chemicals; you're much more than just chemicals—but essentially speaking, your brain controls a lot of your emotions. Without the love for your baby, without that hardwired emotion, parenting becomes much more difficult. It doesn't mean you won't take care of your baby. Many people who didn't love their children still took care of their children. The love may build more slowly over time or come around when they're two years of age.

But essentially speaking, a parent can go from, 'I really love you. I'm infatuated. I'm really happy,' one minute when things are calm, but when the stressors come—which is a lot of parenthood—they become very angry, saying mean things to you, etc. The emotion doesn't have as much hold over them as you would think.

Essentially, the girl who actually became obsessed didn't actually love him because, if she did, she would still be capable of yelling, arguing, fighting, etc., over things that made her unhappy. It's purely emotional. That means that your foundation was terrible. Your girlfriend clearly loved you, but obviously your cheating caused her to become so angry that that emotional love depleted. She didn't like you anymore.

And to be honest here, you couldn't have loved her as much as you said. You might have been in love with her, but it's possible that the level at which you were romantically in love with her, or the level at which you were romantically attracted to your girlfriend, wasn't as strong as it is for other men. Another man may be scared because emotions do have some control. Again, a parent who genuinely loves their child isn't going to do things that would hurt their child. And even so, their expression of love is based on their personality. Their expression of those base emotions varies.

Let's put it this way: love inspires you to do something good for another person. You feel an obligation to do something good for another person. You're taught that way. So let's say that I have a child. Because I know that I have to train my child to be a good person or else other people will dislike them, I'll think, 'I don't want my child to live this way. I don't want my child to do bad things.' So I try to train my child to do good things.

Especially when you're a fae, they are very well known for bad behavior, cruelty, thoughtless curses, etc. As a result, my child being allowed to engage in curses, forms of witchcraft, forms of abuse, general cruelty, entitlement toward humans, mind control, and even emo-kinesis—things I do myself—are things I wouldn't want my child to do. So I would punish those things harshly.

I do not spank her because my emotions are too strong. I'm not saying that parents who spank don't have strong emotions, but I just don't think I would be the kind of parent to spank. I just don't want to do it. I made my own choice and decision. I do have a child, sort of. It's like my niece. Certain things that I just wouldn't let her do are based on my own love for my niece, and even if I didn't love her, I wouldn't let her do them either way.

My sister, on the other hand, prefers her child to be kind of coddled. But her husband, who loves her just as much, is the more strict, disciplinarian parent. They have different values. My sister expects her child to automatically be a great person. You know, love can create blinders. Her husband is a different personality entirely and is just more aware.

Also, we all know this child's going to have supernatural abilities. We don't want this child to become some spoiled-brat demon type of thing.

The problem is that your foundation was already terrible. Your foundation was already, you know, trash. Your foundation would never have ended well anyway. Your girlfriend would have left you regardless. You literally created an actually toxic relationship of sorts.

I'm actually glad I didn't make her fall in love with you because that would have... There are women who get cheated on and still romantically love their partners. That's why they don't leave. They genuinely love their partners. That love-induced emotion, you see, would make it hurt to leave their partners because of that base love. They don't want to be without that person who makes them feel happy or joyful, so they stay. But then it gets too much, and even though they're in love with that person, they eventually dump them."

The base moral of this is kind of to explain exactly how love is multifaceted. The emotion doesn't make you act in one way; the emotion triggers your personality to make decisions. You make decisions based on your feelings and emotions. A man can be extremely angry and choose not to act on that anger.

Oliver was upset but left, saying, "She's probably right," and realized that she actually was right because she was already angry. Simply producing oxytocin wasn't going to solve the problem.

If two friends are very, very close and one friend betrays the other, that friend may become so angry that they just can't be with them anymore. Emotions do have control over your feelings, but eventually that friend will inevitably leave. They may come back because they love that person, and that emotion triggers them to make that choice. They do have free will, but they still make that choice. It's kind of all in mindset, in a way.

What happened in the story was that the Fae had used emo-kinesis, which is the superpower, the ability to control emotions alone. Even if it's not controlling your mind or your mindset, your emotions will affect your mind, mindset, and how you feel about things. But essentially, the only thing is that emotions come as a result of how you think. This thing is bad; this makes you angry, you know, stuff like that.

As a result, emo-kinesis is what she used. But remember, this was only emo-kinesis, and it wasn't a continual one. All she did was set the emotion in place, but it wasn't done in such a way that the emotion would be forced to stay for a long period of time. The emotion just starts up, and that's all. But because of that, because it's not necessarily forcing you to feel one emotion consistently, it just sort of forces the emotion to start up, and then what happens after is what happens after. Basically, the other emotions came in, the other mindset, the other thoughts, and completely destroyed that particular emotion, making them unable to stay friends.

What happened was that she wasn't necessarily in love with him. She wasn't even meant to be in romantic love. Her only love was meant to be friendship. The love hormone, which is known as oxytocin, caused a level of affection to match that of a friend, but due to everything that happened, it just led to complicated emotions. She didn't love him, and she acted on her own accord and free will and chose to leave him.